Another way in which this unit will be different is that questions will be embedded throughout the unit rather than being saved for the end. They will be in red and in a different font to make it easier for us to locate them. For these questions, read at least two interviews by your fellow class mates (in the Folder dedicated to interviews) or go to the archived cross-cultural interviews and incorporate them in your discussion. Also, unlike the units you have already done, you are required to answer ALL of the questions.
As you read through this unit, we want you to view grief as complicated in two different ways: first, within the context of individual family members, that is, as the atypical grief of individual family members; second, within the context of the family as an environment that can be a potentially complicating factor for the grief of family members. Before reading the rest of this unit, think about how you view complicated grief within the family.
This unit will seem unusually short when you first see it. This is intentional. You're being asked to return to earlier units, to look at the information in them through a new "lens," that of complicated grief. Throughout this unit, you'll be drawing on your readings, material from previous units, and on your analytical skills, to look at ways in which grief may and may not be complicated within families.
(Re-read) Gilbert, K. R. 'We've had the same loss, why don't we have the same grief?' Loss and differential grief in families.
Rando, T. A. (1992). The increasing prevalence of complicated mourning: The onslaught is just beginning, Omega, 26, 43-59.
What is Complicated Grief -- children and grief
You'll remember that, in Unit 1, you were asked to define what you saw as unhealthy grief. In many cases, you described complicated grief. You may find, by now, that your view has changed or expanded.
As you read in Rando's article, a great deal of controversy exists over the definition of what we are calling "complicated grieving." It also has been called many other name, including abnormal, atypical, unresolved, dysfunctional, unhealthy, and, most commonly, pathological grief. We have had tremendous difficulty in operationalizing this form of grief (that is, we have had problems in setting a clear, measurable set of criteria for defining "complicated grief"). As we saw in the first unit, grief is defined in a wide variety of ways. Given that uncomplicated grief does not have a single definition, it should not be surprising that complicated grief does not have a single definition. We did, I want to point out, discuss the four forms of complicated grief, as seen by Worden, in that unit. I encourage you to visit that unit and look at the section covering grief as an illness
Family forms and ongoing family processes influence the grief response of individual family members (Unit 2), as do relationships, both with others and the ongoing, but altered, relationship with the deceased (Unit 6). The relationship with the deceased at the time of death is an important factor. Interestingly, it is not necessarily the death of someone with whom we have a close and warm relationship that leads to complicated grief. It may, in fact, be the death of someone with whom we have a conflictual relationship, especially if we feel that relationship should have been warm and close, that is more likely to lead to complicated grief.
Other factors that add complexity to the picture are age and development, which we discussed in the units on early and later development, gender, and culture. Each of these can contribute to a situation in which someone's grief is viewed by others as unhealthy, pathological, or disabling, yet can also be seen as appropriate by another.
Worden (1991, pp. 75-77) proposed a list of indicators of unresolved grief that he put forward as diagnostic criteria to be used by clinicians. The indicators include:
In the article by Rando, you read about another way to thinking about complicated grief (please note that Rando speaks of complicated mourning--this is not the way we use the term in this class--in clinical psychology and psychiatry, mourning and grief often are used interchangeably). In this, grief is complicated if, after accounting for the timeframe, there is compromise, distortion, or failure of one or more of the six "R" processes of grief:
In looking at the family as an environment of grief, it was suggested that families can contribute to the complicating of the grief process of family members, which is addressed in the Gilbert article you were assigned to re-read. In previous semesters, during this unit, we also discussed how families can act as a buffer, reducing the complications of grief (which we also alluded to in Unit 6.) Cendra suggested elements of the circumplex model (Olson, 1995) as useful for understanding family process and grief.
The Circumplex Model is comprised of two dimensions, Cohesion and Adaptability. The cohesion dimension ranges from low, Disengaged, through Separated and Connected, to high, Enmeshed. Adaptability ranges from low, Rigid, through Structured and Flexible, to high, Chaotic. If you picture a 4 X 4 table that results in 16 cells, you have a sense of what the circumplex model looks like. A very rough picture of this is presented below (incidentally, if you're using a text only browser, let me know. I'll fax a copy of this image to you):
Each of the 16 cell in the table represents one family type. For example, if a family was high in adaptability and low in cohesion, that family would be classified as chaotically disengaged.
According to Olson, these dimensions are curvilinear, that is, the four central categories of the table are considered balanced families, and are seen as the most functional. These are flexible-separated, flexible-connected, structured-separated, and strucured-connected. Mid-range families are extreme on one dimension, yet are balanced on the other dimension, and there are eight cells in this category. Families at the extremes of both dimensions are considered the least functional.
Families are in an ongoing struggle to maintain a balance between the extremes of cohesion and adaptability, between connectedness and separateness and between organization and disorder. Olson suggests that balanced families have more balanced communication skills.
Cendra also suggested that we look at such classification systems and look at them in terms of functional and dysfunctional family activity. She defined these in the following ways:
Finally, the article you re-read on differential grieving proposed that families can contribute to more complicated grief. We discussed this earlier in the semester and you're asked to re-visit this question:
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